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Featured Survivor – Lynn

Featured Survivor - LynnThe word shame is thought to be derived from an older word meaning "to cover," as such, covering ones’ self, literally or figuratively. When I was being abused, I was too ashamed to let anyone know because I feared their judgment. I was embarrassed that I had made such a poor choice and I worried that I would be judged for not leaving him. See, I thought it was only me. That's what shame is.

What I came to learn is that I wasn't doing a very good job of hiding it. People could see that I had lost my spark and my heart had been broken. My once sassy, independent, confident, capable spirit was long gone.

Then the day came when the pain of staying was worse than the pain of leaving. So I packed up all my troubles and left. That moment, that freeing moment...was a fabulous feeling of liberation from the abusive oppression I had become accustomed to. Although I feared financial insecurity and the magnificent task of a complete makeover of my entire life, I did it anyway and HAVEN was a safe place for me to begin to recover and I learned strategies which I used to rebuild my life.

I learned that I am not alone. In fact, 1 in every 4 families experience domestic abuse. Statistics are great, but I prefer a visual. If I was in a room with a dozen people, THREE of them have been where I have been OR are currently where I WAS.

Those same statistics show that there is no cultural or economic divide. It doesn't matter if you are rich or poor; it's STILL 1 in 4 families. But either way, you CAN leave. It's alright. Being abused is NEVER (ever) your fault. I have found it to be a fabulous life changing, life-GROWING experience to share my hope and strength and BRAVERY in setting myself free.

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